A happy relationship takes a big commitment, not just a statement that you can make to your partner in order to deceive him/her. It's very easy to be committed in a relationship when the relationship is running smoothly and fun, but when that relationship began to encounter problems, challenges, obstacles. We will be willing to back out from such relationship.
What is the commitment? Commitment is a promise to do something or to behave in a particular way, a promise to support someone wholeheartedly. The meaning of commitment is endless. The essence that commitment is not just a theory, but the action and attitude that we have to grow on us, with the means we have committed to responsible and sure of ourselves. With the commitment, we are also helping ourselves in the face of the temptations that may arise in our relationship.
Commitment is not only loyal, but also a refusal to budge and accept what your partner wants in order to maintain the relationship we are keeping you are keeping with him/her. Submissive to your partner does not mean you are willing to be his/her slave or to be controlled, but to make your relationship strong.
How To Make A Commitment In A Relationship
- Spend Time Together. Have you ever discussed a single hour neighbor on how to deal with various problems that will arise in life with your partner? Spending some time with your partner will make you understand more about him/her. You need to know the person you want to spend your life with before prolonging the relationship. So, it's time you spoke in a relaxed mood, but serious about what it would be when both of you agree to live together in the future.
- Honest. Honesty is the first step in a relationship and keeping commitments. With honesty, we have a moral responsibility to always keep the commitments we make. Let your partner know you are honest with him/her and he/she is the one that you want to spend your life with, instead of lying which will only hurt the commitments that you make. Do not overdo it in every way, so that the commitments are not violated. Cover-up and exaggerate the truth will always interfere with the commitment. Ideal step we need to do is to be honest and candid to our partner. This attitude will lead us to a harmonious relationship and an atmosphere of happiness, so that our relationship remains intact.
- Patient. How can we keep the commitment if we are easily ignited emotions, even by the news that is not clear and true. For example? Being patient is very important to maintain the commitment we make. It's advisable to find out whatever you may hear or being told about your partner, before taking any action. So it's very important to be patient in a relationship when making a commitment because easy emotions when faced with problems, tend to be easily destroyed. Therefore, accept any event, whether pleasant or not, with airy hearts. Make it all as a life lesson. Remember, patience is crucial into our commitment in fostering harmonious relationships.
- Mutual Attention. Genuine concern will be an inspiration for us to continue to keep the commitment, probably a lot of temptations that appear around us. For example, the temptation to share attention with another man, or another woman. The temptations of this kind will destroy the commitments that have been made with the spouse. The only way to avoid this kind of temptation is to give attention to each couple. Of course, the concern is genuine from the heart, not the full attention guise. Suppose the spouse as being very meaningful in our lives. Keep in mind that he/she is the best person that you want to live your life with.
- Responsibility. Commitment would need responsibility, try not to act arbitrarily, but neither should be no compulsion in terms of making a commitment. Commitment should be made based on full awareness of both parties, if this can happen, then we will certainly responsible wholeheartedly into commitments for the survival of the relationship. We can maintain responsibility, for example, with respect to our partner. If we do not want to be hurt, then we should not hurt our partner with reneging on commitments that have been made. This is the responsibility that we must uphold.
- Willing To Sacrifice. Making commitments often have to sacrifice personal desires, we must be willing to sacrifice if we want to make a commitment to someone, including the spouse. Commitment to marry have consequences for no longer preoccupied with the past. Commitment to marriage requires us to spend more time with our family, friends and the past may no longer be a priority to us. So, to sacrifice for an important commitment need to focus on the commitment that has been made at the expense of some of the things that we used to have.
- Keep A Good Attitude. Maintaining a commitment also means maintaining an attitude. So, develop a good attitudes and avoid destructive attitudes. Do not destroy commitment with a bad attitude, for example, easily suspicious, do not believe in pairs, or trying to be selfish. Instead, try to be nice, for instance: friendly, kind and honest to your partner. The positive attitude should be firmly borne by a commitment to a life partner.
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